I came across an article recently that included this quote:
"I’m convinced there is something very wrong with me! I feel like a complete outcast in each and every church. The weird thing is I don’t feel that way at work, which is a completely secular environment. Lately I’ve been crying all weekend and so grateful to be able to go to work on Monday morning because I know I’m valued and wanted there and I know I am contributing something as well."
I certainly identify with what this woman is saying. In secular environments, no one seems to "care" that I'm single, and I don't feel ignored simply because I don't have a husband. So, why does it feel like that in the church sometimes? This article suggests helpful things that churches can do to support singles, and I recommend you check it out, especially if you're married or in church leadership. Going to church is one of the loneliest parts of my week, and I know that I'm in part to blame. I sit alone every single week and no one has ever invited me to join them. And yet, I see other people sitting alone, and I don't invite them to sit with me. Hospitality and friendliness go both ways. I can't complain too loudly if I'm not willing to do something about it. If my church lacks a small group for singles, maybe I'm the one who needs to lead it. Maybe. It might be your job this time, or it might be mine. Only prayer and seeking wisdom from the Lord can really determine that answer. But, am I truly listening and asking for wisdom? It's far too easy to sit back and wait for someone else to do something about it.
If you're single, then you already know the stuff in this article and are probably nodding your head in agreement. If that's the case, find an article that challenges you as a single person regarding what you can contribute to your church. Challenge yourself to be a blessing to those around you. Do I feel like the church can do more for me and my fellow singles? Of course. And I have plenty of ideas if anyone wants to listen. Can I do more for my church, not just practically, but regarding the philosophy of ministry surrounding singlenss in the church? Absolutely.
